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Credits
--Diah Mastura--
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:: In the nutshell ::
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
"Quoted from a blogger..."
A man should not complete you. He should compliment you." So, said my boss during lunch. She said she got that from Oprah. And that line inspired me to write about this. About how some of us women are afraid of moving on, because we just want to hold on to someone we've had in our lives for the longest time. Just imagine if your partner completes you. Then, what if he/she is gone someday, will you break into pieces?Of course, because only half of you is left. This shouldn't be the case. Especially for us females. I think we need to stop being the damsel in distress and hoping that our prince charming will someday come along to sweep us off our feets. But we should hope to meet a prince charming that will bring out the best in us. To hold our hand when we walk. To pull us up when we fall. To push us forward when we are not moving. Do not depend on your partner for everything. Because if you do, then you don't make space for yourself to grow. Yes, love a person with everything that your heart can give. But never give him/her your heart, cos it's yours to begin with. I used to believe that i can never ever move on. But it took me a lot of courage to convince myself that i deserve better. So, i made that daring move and left. People around you might not necessarily be pleased with your decisions, but if they really cared, they will support you and wish you all the best. Ladies and gentlemen, remember that you deserve only the best. And you have every right to do things that will make you happy. =)  Men and women think differently, but one way of thinking is not better or more effective than the other. Men are not superior to women and women are not superior to men. Both will accomplish their tasks, they will just go about achieving their goal in different ways. Men tend to think in terms of logic and problem-solving. Women tend to be aware of details, undertones and feelings, which in some cases interfere with a detached, objective viewpoint. Men look at the big picture. Women look at everything and assess everything and notice nuances that men will never notice. That is why men might come to a logical conclusion rather quickly, whereas women will come to the underlying "truth" of something, because their thought processes involve so much more detail. I'm still at a point where i have yet to really understand how men think. Not only that, i can't quite even figure out how my brain works. The co-relation between my thought processes and the associated feelings. I try to be as diplomatic as possible when it comes to reacting to certain situations and making decisions. But sometimes, the female side of me gets in the way until it became what is called unpredictable.But whatever it is ladies and gentlemen, it takes a lot of effort in a relationship. And i believe a perfect relationship doesn't exist. It's the differences that makes each of our partnerships colourful. So, just like a painting of your own, start with a white canvas. Draw out the lines to your picture. Colour it with vibrancy and bring it to life. You just have to MAKE IT WORK. I have no regrets with what had happened before. Instead, it enriched me as a person. About being wiser in making life changing decisions. In learning to do things that make ME happy. In pleasing myself first before I spread the love to those around me. This time round, i want to do it differently. Insya'Allah. =)
:: Marvellous Rendezvous ::
Saturday, April 11, 2009
When I don’t think I can, they tell me that I need to get up and believe in myself. When I want to give up, they say it’s not an option..
 It was a day of fun packed jokes and sniggers right from the start up to the crazy road crossing @ Raffles Place to the last hugs. As usual, we started off the tryst with lunch at Sakura @ Far East Plaza, whilst delving into the art of conversation which by nature involves an exchange of ‘buzzing information’ and a back-and-forth laughter.
Neither one of us were verbose in any ways as we chattily summarized the many experiences we encountered. It has always been easy confabulating with this bunch of wonderful people that at times words aren’t even necessary as they can succinctly read what’s in the mind,right Bao Ling? The bonding has now driven us closer to the extent that cloaking hornets' nest in artful language is no longer efficient.
 After lunch, we headed next to Cash Studio karaoke @ cuppage. Thanks Yani for booking the room for us . The hot milo served really kept us warm despite it was raining heavily outside. There we sang our hearts out. From indonesian songs,English songs and Chinese songs, we cleared through.Infact time passed by too fast that soon we realized we had spent three hours there. It was a relief to be surrounded by amazing friends who are there for you in times of joviality, nonsensically and distress.  Soon, we took cab and headed to One Fullerton for Starbucks.The fete of toothsome at Starbucks, genial clique, what more with the nice breeze made the whole experience a memorable one. Dinner aside, the date proceeded with several round of card games non other than the famous UNO. It was a road to the memory lane as each and every one of us tried to remember the rules of the game as it has been a long time since the last time we played one. In the end, we made do of whatever regulations that we could possibly recalled and at times even altered it to our own preference which made the whole experience filled with cachinnation.. The sleuthing blood in us was racing to our head as we quickly exchanged cards, so much so that we didn’t care two hoots about other things. We were like kids again, engrossed in our own world away from all worries. It was truly an empyreal feeling great for the soul.
 In short,we had a great time and looking forward for more undescribable moments of camaraderie like this :) I have alot of our Karaoke videos, but i guess its for our keepsake :)Thank you girls for the night out!
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